“The coconut milk is off.” Spoiler Alert: If you haven’t seen The White Lotus Season 3, spoilers ahead. Sometimes when something feels off to me, or something goes wrong, I will say this phrase out loud: “The coconut milk is off.” Most of the time, people just tilt their head and stare at me. But occasionally, aContinue reading “Piña Colada Vibes”
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LYSM Vibes
Why I Always Say “I Love You” Life has a way of reminding us (sometimes gently, sometimes not) that nothing here is guaranteed. Plans change. People come and go. Timelines we thought were solid dissolve without warning. It’s a wild, unpredictable ride, and for all the ways we try to control it, we’re never promisedContinue reading “LYSM Vibes”
Gatsby Vibes
Limerence, Romantic Obsession, and the Illusion of Closeness As I sat across from my client, listening to them describe their looping thoughts about a specific person, I noticed a familiar pattern unfolding. Story after story I was hearing about moments of connection followed by confusion, warmth followed by distance, hope followed by doubt. Hot andContinue reading “Gatsby Vibes”
Bookstore Vibes
Is there anything better than a bookstore? Truly? I mean… unless it’s got a Joe Goldberg working at the counter. And let’s be so for real, I absolutely would have dated him back in the day. I mean… he reads books. Come on. Anyway. I was at Barnes & Noble the other day, just milling around as I doContinue reading “Bookstore Vibes”
Emo Vibes
Sentimental Moments That Stick Recently I had a realization while listening to music: many of my favorite artists are men. And not just men, but men who are very in their feelings. It got me thinking about why that kind of emotional expression resonates with me so much. Part of it might come from somethingContinue reading “Emo Vibes”
Flower Vibes
There’s a line in Sun to Me by Zach Bryan that has a way of landing softly and then staying with you: “Find someone who grows flowers in the darkest parts of you.” Up until very recently, I’ll be honest, I had no idea who Zach Bryan even was. Someone introduced me to his music over the holidays, and I foundContinue reading “Flower Vibes”
Under-Reaction Vibes
Under-Reacting (aka Why Your Comebacks Arrive 6–8 Business Hours Later) Have you ever left an argument feeling… fine? Calm. Mature. Regulated queen energy. And then three hours later you’re in the shower delivering a TED Talk to an invisible audience about everything you should have said? Yeah. Same. That’s not you being “bad at confrontation.”That’s your nervousContinue reading “Under-Reaction Vibes”
Tired Vibes
This afternoon feels like one of those quiet moments where the truth sneaks up on you. You’re at your desk, typing progress notes, side-eyeing the spiral notebook like it personally owes you something. It has to be 5×8, obviously. Spiral. Bonus points if the cover is cute. The to-do list never ends. It just… rolls over.Continue reading “Tired Vibes”
Lessons in Disguise Vibes
False Starts False starts in relationships are those connections that spark quickly, feel almost right, then stall, fade, or fall apart before they fully take shape. They’re the nearlys. The “this could be something” that never quite becomes the thing. In today’s dating-app world, false starts are more common than ever. Ghosting, slow fades, bread-crumbing, conversation spikes thatContinue reading “Lessons in Disguise Vibes”
Mac Miller Vibes
Content note: This post references substance use, overdose, and grief. Today would have been Mac Miller’s 34th trip around the sun. I read that earlier today, and it caused me to pause and reflect. His death still feels wrong to me. The kind of loss that never fully settles. My favorite song of his is Woods. It’s theContinue reading “Mac Miller Vibes”