Get Out of Your Own Way
So many people stand between themselves and their dream life, their dream partner, their dream job. Why? Because deep down, they don’t believe they deserve it. Period.
I don’t love when people throw around the phrase “if they wanted to, they would”—because it’s not that simple. People want a lot of things in life. What holds them back isn’t usually desire—it’s fear. Fear of rejection. Fear of failure. Fear that they’re not enough.
The truth is, the difference between people who are thriving and those who are stuck in rinse-and-repeat cycles is belief. Belief that they are worthy of what their heart desires. Belief makes things real. I say it all the time and I’ll say it again: if you don’t believe in YOU, it doesn’t matter who else does.
Energy Is Magnetic
We all give off energy, and it is contagious. When you’re operating from a place of confidence, joy, and self-worth—what I call high-vibration states—you naturally draw opportunities, people, and experiences toward you. High vibe emotions feel expansive: love, gratitude, excitement, inspiration. These states open doors and invite possibility.
On the flip side, low-vibration states—fear, shame, self-doubt, resentment—can feel heavy and constricting. They don’t make you a “bad” person (we all go there sometimes), but they do tend to push things away. Think of it like a magnet: one side attracts, the other repels.
Self-Fulfilling Prophecies
What you tell yourself matters. The story you rehearse in your mind, the one you hit “repeat” on every single day, becomes your truth. If you continually tell yourself “I’ll never find love” or “I’m not cut out for success,” you’ll unconsciously live in alignment with that belief.
This isn’t just “woo”—it’s psychology. In therapy, we talk about cognitive restructuring: the process of challenging unhelpful thought patterns and rewriting them into healthier, more supportive ones. This is a cornerstone of Cognitive Behavioral Therapy (CBT).
Neural Pathways & Change
Here’s the neuroscience behind it: your brain runs on neural pathways, which are like trails in a forest. The more you think a thought, the more worn that path becomes—and the easier it is for your brain to default to it.
The empowering news? You can create new pathways. When you start telling yourself a new story—“I am worthy of love,” “I am capable,” “I am enough”—you are literally rewiring your brain. At first it feels awkward and unnatural, but over time, that new path becomes the default.
This is why affirmations, journaling, and therapeutic interventions like CBT are powerful. They help interrupt the old “automatic pilot” thoughts and replace them with new, life-giving ones.
The Therapist’s Take
As a therapist, I see it over and over again: the people who transform their lives aren’t the ones who never feel fear or doubt. They’re the ones who decide to believe in themselves anyway. They commit to rewriting their inner narrative. They lean into practices that support higher-vibration living—gratitude, mindfulness, compassionate self-talk.
Belief doesn’t erase the hard work required, but it lays the foundation for it. When you believe you’re worthy, you show up differently. You apply for the job. You set the boundary. You walk into the room with your head held high.
Final Note
So, if you take nothing else from this: remember that your story is not fixed. You can rewrite it. You can create new neural pathways. You can choose beliefs that serve you instead of sabotage you.
Get out of your own way. The life you dream of isn’t waiting for permission—it’s waiting for you to believe.
What kind of story will yours be?
-LC
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