“That’s Just How I Am” – Honest, But Is It Healthy? You’ve probably said it before, or at least thought it: “That’s just how I am.” Maybe it felt like an honest declaration, a way of owning your quirks or habits. But here’s the hard truth: while honesty matters, using that phrase as a shieldContinue reading “Dance Vibes”
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Safe to Love Vibes
Love, Safety, and How We’re Wired As a therapist, I often talk with clients about relationships—romantic, familial, and platonic. One truth I return to again and again is this: people don’t always love us in the ways we want them to, but in the ways they know how. Love is filtered through the nervous system,Continue reading “Safe to Love Vibes”
Rewire & Rewrite Vibes
Get Out of Your Own Way So many people stand between themselves and their dream life, their dream partner, their dream job. Why? Because deep down, they don’t believe they deserve it. Period. I don’t love when people throw around the phrase “if they wanted to, they would”—because it’s not that simple. People want a lotContinue reading “Rewire & Rewrite Vibes”
Deep Vibes
Depth Can Be Disruptive “People can only meet you at the depth of which they have met themselves.” Shallow people often get uncomfortable around deep people—not because the deep are doing anything wrong, but because depth demands presence. It challenges surface-level conversation, empty validation, and performative connection. The Therapist’s Perspective In therapy, we often returnContinue reading “Deep Vibes”
Avoidant Vibes
Stop Running From Love — You’re Worthy of It When you put up walls and keep your feelings bottled up, those emotions don’t disappear — they come back, usually louder and messier than before. And when you push people away, even the ones who genuinely care, eventually they’ll walk. Not because they didn’t love you,Continue reading “Avoidant Vibes”
EQ Vibes
EQ & Emotional Maturity: Why They Matter (Especially When You’re Dating in Midlife) Okay, so we’ve all heard about IQ—the measure of how “book smart” you are—but EQ (aka emotional intelligence quotient) is the glow-up version that actually matters in relationships, careers, and just, you know, adulting. Let’s break it down. What Exactly Is EQ? Emotional intelligence (EQ) isContinue reading “EQ Vibes”
Break the Spell Vibes
When You Stop Trading Physical Intimacy for the Illusion of Love So many women—myself included, at times—have mistaken flattery, charm, and love bombing for real love. It feels intoxicating when a man showers you with attention, tells you everything you’ve been longing to hear, and makes you feel chosen. But often, the harsh truth isContinue reading “Break the Spell Vibes”
Sabotage Vibes
The Illusion of Control: How Self-Sabotage Keeps Us Stuck I’ve had to admit something to myself that’s been a long time coming: I have a tendency to self-sabotage. And not in an obviously dramatic, self-destructive way—but in those quiet, subtle patterns that fly just under the radar. The procrastination masked as “waiting for the rightContinue reading “Sabotage Vibes”
Attachment Vibes
Why You Love the Way You Do (and What That Has to Do with Your Childhood) Let’s talk about something that affects literally everything in your love life, whether you realize it or not: attachment styles. This isn’t just psychobabble—it’s psychology, neuroscience, and lived experience rolled into one. Your attachment style is essentially your internal GPS for intimacy.Continue reading “Attachment Vibes”
Writing Vibes
Why I Like to Write When I was a kid, I was nerdy. Like, glasses-too-big-for-my-face, book-in-hand-at-recess kind of nerdy. It wasn’t until middle school that I realized I might actually be… cute? And possibly even cool-adjacent? But until then, books were my world. Reading was a safe escape from what, at times, was a veryContinue reading “Writing Vibes”
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